Forcing confidence is counter-productive. Trying to be confident when you are most definitely not feeling it doesn’t erase or solve all the other yuck; it just intensifies it.
The PhD is a formless, undefinable, unpredictable, ever-changing, multi-faceted thing – this is why it’s all the more important to get super clear about YOUR intentions, goals and best work practices.
Modern life persuades us of the importance of prioritising mind over matter: Pain is gain. Individual striving is glory. Be productive! Be successful! Create, endeavour, push push push! But you know what? Those rules really are arbitrary as fuck.
Your examiners’ assessment of your PhD is not the only one that matters (in fact it doesn’t need to matter at all). Here’s why.
How to dream forward into possibility and away from fear
Consider these 3 things the very next time you start thinking, “But I suck and I’m failing my PhD because they’re doing better than me…”
Our fears of what others will think usually amounts more specifically to a fear that we’ll upset them or they’ll think less of us. So, here’s two nifty things you can do to release that burden of trying to please everyone.
No one in the history of forever has just “let it go” just because someone told them to. Let it go? Just like that? It’s not a balloon! Here are 5 things you could do instead
There is so much out there that reinforces the message that writing has to be synonymous with struggle, suffering, blocks and difficulty. I’m here to remind you that writing can also be joyful.
Are you sick to death of being busy? Or hustling your face off? Or juggling 108 different things for 73 different people? Here’s my favourite new hack to EASE OFF the busy-ness.