Your examiners’ assessment of your PhD is not the only one that matters (in fact it doesn’t need to matter at all). Here’s why.
Consider these 3 things the very next time you start thinking, “But I suck and I’m failing my PhD because they’re doing better than me…”
There is so much out there that reinforces the message that writing has to be synonymous with struggle, suffering, blocks and difficulty. I’m here to remind you that writing can also be joyful.
Just because everyone else is driving themselves hard, it doesn’t make it more okay for us to beat up harder on ourselves. It’s the opposite: it’s realising that it’s totally, forgivingly okay that we don’t do everything we set out to do.
if you’re looking for a sign, this blog post is your permission slip to treat yourself kindly. Take a break. Pause. Go slower. Give yourself what you need.
The one thing that is fucking up your head and your own bloody brilliant, amazing, productive, successful progress is this default setting that all our tricksy brains have that insists on comparing.
You might understand how deeply uncomfortable it can feel to be catapulted into spaces where you feel you have to be ‘on display’ or ‘performing’ a personality that just doesn’t feel good. BUT… how about if we just didn’t respond to those bullshit confidence imperatives?
Whatever you’re up against, what part of you can you call up to rise above and beyond the stuck limitations of other people’s bullshit, expectations, conventions or ‘rules’?
Find a mentor/supervisor/teacher who sets the room alight when they come in, who makes you feel excited about tackling the things that most other people would find terrifying/tedious/utterly impossible.
Sometimes, just making the decision that you want to feel a bit better can make a huge difference in your everyday.